Like Energy

The concept of like energy attracting like energy is part of the mirroring process and it is an important concept to understand if you are to journey with as little pain as possible. Because we are each an amazing, self-healing miracle, part of our self-healing mechanism draws us to other people and situations that match our own internal energy or vibration. We meet mirrors of ourselves all the time. Though we might not be conscious of this fact at the time, there is always a loving reason that we are feeling drawn to another. The like-energy-attracts-like-energy mechanism is always at play. We are generally conscious of the positive qualities we are attracted to in another and we can also be aware of the similarities we share, such as both having a hurt inner child caused by the death of a parent at a young age or other experiences. This likeenergy-attracts-like-energy mechanism attempts to bring our buried mistaken beliefs into the light where we can correct and heal them.

Over the years, numerous people have shared with me that they had absolutely no idea at the time they met their significant other that he orshe had a particular quality that turned out to be very challenging for them. The vibrational pull or attraction is often unconscious, but it is what brings us together for healing. Yes, there are other qualities that you appreciated and found attractive, but the unconscious quality was definitely an important part of the attraction equation as well.

As we learned in Chapter 2, ―You Are an Energy Experience,‖ the phrase ―opposites attract‖ is really a description of what happens on the surface. At a deeper level, two people who appear to be ―opposites‖ are actually manifesting ―like‖ energy. Here’s an example: Let’s say that both Person A and Person B carry within themselves an unconscious fear of intimacy. Person A rarely goes out, is quiet and prefers being alone. Person B is a socialite, always on the move and the life of every party. They appear to be opposites, but, in this particular case, they are simply manifesting the same fear in different and opposite ways. Please note that not all people who have these qualities are fearful of intimacy. If Person A and Person B were to develop a close relationship, they would each bring to light the fears in the other, providing each other with the opportunity for awareness and resolution of their fear.

Our mechanism of attraction to ―like‖ energy is the result of having a self-healing psyche. It’s actually a pretty darn good mechanism because, as we form loving relationships with others who match our internal energy, we are provided with a clearer mirror through which we learn about our selves, our beliefs and our emotions. The more love we have for another, the more likely we will be motivated to stay and work things through when painful emotions emerge.

Love also opens us up so that we are more vulnerable and in touch with our buried beliefs and emotions. When a situation or a relationship brings up pain, it is an opportunity to learn the truth about our own beliefs and correct the mistaken ones. Mistaken beliefs, let me reiterate, are any beliefs that create judgments rather than affirm the truth of your own innocence. Here’s an example: if I am a batterer, my behavior is caused by the mistaken belief that I am not innocent, and my belief is then projected onto the other person.

The beliefs we hold are responsible for our behaviors, and, as adults, we are responsible for the beliefs we hold. If we walk away from situations or relationships without resolving our mistaken beliefs and emotions, they will only reappear in another situation or relationship. I like to say that spirit has unconditional patience and will continue to bring those feelings up over and over until we are ready to face and resolve them. 

Should you find yourself needing to walk away from a relationship, it is important to hold on to the feeling of love in your heart. Through love, you gain a compassionate understanding for yourself as well as a compassionate understanding for others. This is why you need not stop loving a person even if it is no longer beneficial for you to remain together. If you can walk away with loving feelings intact, then you have used the mirror wisely and have had, at least, a brief visit into your heart.

If your partner walked away from you and you are filled with hurt and anger rather than love, remember that hurt and anger are signals of self-blame. Work toward bringing yourself back to innocence and you will then be able to reconnect to loving feelings 

Of course, when a relationship ends that you really hoped would work out, there will be feelings of sadness, grief and disappointment. But when you live in oneness with the spirit self within your heart, that sadness will not linger because it will be upstaged by the joy of birthing a new and beautiful future.

Youwillfocus onyour positive future and rememberwith appreciation the love shared in your past relationship. To be in this place of open-heartedness enables you to participate with your ex-partner in a loving and supportive friendship, but only if both of you are doing the work of using your  mirrors to grow beyond limiting and unsupportive beliefs and emotions.

Living with compassionate understanding allows you to see that everyone is somewhere on the path in their journey to the center of their hearts. You come to know that patience, acceptance and love help both you and everyone you care about move forward.